Hello There!
As a certified life and relationship coach with a BS in Psychology, I specialize in helping individuals and partnerships develop authentic thriving relationships built on communication and trust.
My Story
Walking the Path Beside You
We are often told there is only one "right" way to love, to connect, and to exist in our own bodies. But for many of us, those traditional boxes feel small, restrictive, or simply "not quite right." I know that feeling because I have lived it. My name is Tori Swanner, and I am here to walk beside you as you navigate the beautiful, sometimes messy, and deeply rewarding journey of building a life that is authentically yours.
Why I Do This
My passion for coaching comes from a simple belief: you deserve to feel comfortable in your own skin. Whether you are exploring the vast landscape of polyamory or diving into the transformative power of kink, my goal is to help you strip away the "shoulds" and discover what truly makes your heart beat faster. I strive to create a safe, compassionate space where your "taboo" is honored and your vulnerability is seen as a strength.
My Personal Journey
I don't just understand these lifestyles from a textbook; I live them every day. I have been polyamorous for most of my adult life and an active member of my local BDSM community for over a decade. Currently, I am thriving in two lifetime-committed relationships—partnerships that began in April and October of 2023 and continue to teach me about the depths of human connection.
In my most private and cherished life, I live a 24/7 M/s lifestyle as an owned and collared slave. This personal path has taught me more about trust, surrender, and communication than any degree ever could. It allows me to offer you a unique perspective—one rooted in deep, lived experience and a profound respect for the power exchange dynamics we explore together.
My Professional Commitment
To support your journey, I bring a solid foundation in psychology. I hold a Bachelor of Science in Psychology and am currently pursuing my Master of Science in Counseling Psychology. This academic background allows me to ground our coaching in evidence-based strategies—focusing on communication, healthy boundaries, and emotional resilience—while keeping our work centered on your specific, lived reality.
Let’s Build Your Authenticity
Whether you are transitioning into ethical non-monogamy, exploring a new kink, or simply trying to reconcile your identity with your lifestyle, I am here to help you lead with your heart. Together, we will build relationships that aren't just sustainable, but liberating.